When you all were younger did you go to clubs?
In my teens and 20's that seemed like a nightmare and after that, like Chris Rock said, "you don't want to be the old guy in the club".
I would go every now and then if a smaller jam band I'd like was booked to play one but that was the only reason. I've probably been in about 20 for that reason alone.
It's a very different vibe.
Obviously, if I go back to my college days, I went to clubs all the time in both NJ and NYC. And when I got out of college, I went to clubs in Boston with work friends, back in '84-85. And then again in '95, when I was getting divorced.
Now we have clubs up here where they play grownup music, Like Jimmy's Jazz and Blues in Portsmouth, and Johnathan's in Ogunquit. I've also been to some of the small venues in Portsmouth to see friends play in local bands.
The Federal Cigar chain has a bunch of very nice lounges in Portsmouth and Dover NH. On Thursdays, the Dover one has live music. It's a huge place, like the size of a restaurant. I went there once on a Thursday, and found it was very "clique-y". Groups of friends - who were regulars there - would stake-out tables or seating areas. I sat at the bar. And that was the only time I went.
Ironically, I had friends who'd be the type to go with me, but they lived where I used to live in NH, and wouldn't drive up here on a Thursday night. I think now they would, but I don't hang-out with them anymore.